Jul
02

Discover How You Can Use Fear To Double Your Law of Attraction Success!

Currently I’m working through the ‘Manifest a Miracle Course’, this has triggered a train of Law of Attraction related memories, some successful some not so. I am going to analyse my biggest ever mistake here and see what I can learn from it.

Way back when, ten years or more ago I had just read the classic, ‘Think and Grow Rich’ by Napoleon Hill, for a re-cap of  this read: Think and Grow Rich.

So, after studiously following the instructions, I had written out exactly what my ‘dream scenario’ in life was and had been visualizing this. I began busily setting up my company and formulating a business plan to generate me stacks of cash. Unfortunately, I faced the same problem most start-up businesses face, insufficient funds. At that time in the mid-2000′s, banks in the UK were mercifully all too happy to dish out money to anyone left right and centre, so a loan for a significant amount of money was quickly secured.

This money, I then sank into my business without a second thought. I had to transfer this cash from my personal account into my business account, but had to physically do it, in order to get it in as soon as possible. I recall marching from one bank to the other with a rucksack literally bursting with wads of cash… and this heralded the start of my troubles.

Whilst ‘brainwashing’ myself via the techniques used in Think and Grow Rich, I had unwittingly blinded myself from actually thinking things through properly. Every time I had a doubt, I assured myself I just had to believe and have faith in my idea. Now, that is all very well but the fact is that the money I had loaned from the bank gradually began to gnaw away at the back of my mind. Remember, the amount of money was significant to me and having recently graduated I wasn’t really in a position to be borrowing amounts like this.

The outcome of this was… fear. A steady but growing fear in my mind about what would I do if this didn’t come off. What would happen to me? How would I pay this money back? Where would this leave me? In short, fear started to undermine my confidence. My belief wavered and I stopped thinking things through properly, if I ever had.

The result was that after 6 months of hard work and plenty of money invested, my plans endured a slow and painful death. I/the business was left with significant debt and my confidence in the Law of Attraction was left at an all-time low.

As is the nature of the Law of Attraction, as my thoughts focused more and more on thoughts of failure, the business started to spiral downwards. A hard lesson was learned but it was a necessary one at the time. It stood me in good stead from then on and I’ll reveal a few of my successes in manifesting and using the law of attraction in later blog posts, for example: the dream job which fell into my lap.

Anyway, the moral of the story here is to avoid focusing on failure, avoid dwelling on the feelings of fear and accept if you do feel fearful try to understand why that is. There is a reason fear is felt, to protect you, so listen to it, address it properly and then move forward positively from there.

In hindsight I should have acknowledged the fear and analysed my plans making necessary changes until the feeling was dealt with. This might have involved engaging with a project with a lower level of risk, seeking a more qualified mentor at that time, starting on a smaller scale or abandoning the idea altogether.  This would have refocused my attention on the positives. It may well have enabled me to double my investment as originally planned!

Has fear ever helped or hindered your plans? Any tips you can pass on?

Jun
24

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May
05

The #1 KILLER Wealth Creation Strategy That Anyone Can Use To Create Millions!

Does money equal wealth?

What is wealth?

When most people hear the word ‘wealth’ they normally think about money, earnings, income, savings and riches. To me, wealth is not just about money, but about having a plentiful supply of ‘what I want’.  OK, words like ‘I want’ sound selfish, however I will  admit that ‘yes’, I want more free time, better health, more freedom, a happier world, more time to go on holiday and so on.

These desires can largely be fulfilled through financial wealth, so that is what this article is about.

As a starting point… If you stopped working today, how long could you last before not being able to continue to pay for your current lifestyle?

Be honest…

Let’s see, well maybe the first couple of months would be OK, after all you would still have your final months pay cheque, then there’s a couple of savings account that you have been contributing too, so they should help, then after that friends and family would be able to help out for a while, after that though with no further money coming in for the mortgage, the car, food and other day to day living costs I think most people would start to find things really real tough within 6 months, would you last a longer or shorter period of time?

Logically  higher wage earners should last longer than lower paid workers, however they would often last much less. As people earn more they tend to spend more also. The new job promotion brings with it the pay rise, the bigger house and the prospect of two holidays abroad per year. Of course, throw in the addition of a family and life just gets more expensive, but at least you can access loans and credit cards that you can secure against your higher paying job right!?

Where is your money really going?

It doesn’t matter how much you earn if you are spending more than that amount each month, then you are always going to be in danger. Try this quick test…how much money did you earn last month?  Ah, you answered that very quickly with confidence, now, how much did you spend last month on everything?….I’m waiting……still waiting…are you sure? Where did you get that figure from? You don’t sound  very confident.

A simple equation…

Where is your money really going?

So it is a simple equation – money in needs to be higher than money going out, we seldom sit down and actually work these things out though. This is the first part of the problem, we don’t know where our money is going!

The second part of the problem is the misconception that people have about rich people. People tend to assume that the rich worked hard for their money, then bought the cars and the house with the money they earned. That is the big misconception, you see there is a curious little step made by the wealthy, but missed out by the majority of people that if people only took this step they could stop themselves from falling into a lifetime of insecurity and become a millionaire instead.

The Millionaire Step

This is the missing link that separates the haves from the have not’s in life: Create passive income! You see, the first time most people get their financial heads above water in life from their first promotion or whatever, the excess money tends to go on luxury items and upgrades in cars, the future millionaire doesn’t do this, they invest this money into building passive streams of income.

Rather than squandering all of their salary each month and making paltry savings contributions, they spend frugally, they do not buy a big car or a big house. Instead they buy a big car and a big house… at a later date… with money they have created from passive income. The difference between the two approaches is huge in terms of wealth building strategies. Furthermore, they are likely to go and re-invest this passive income to generate yet more money for them and lets not forget, they may well still have the good old 9-5 ticking over nicely too! It boils down to this:

“Don’t work hard for the money, let money work hard for you”

My recommendation

If it were that easy why isn’t everyone doing it?

Firstly, people don’t often sit down to really think through their finances in this manner but even if they did and they were aware of this missing step, what most people lack is the discipline to hold back on the lifestyle upgrade until they have started to generate their own passive income.

Now, I have no idea what stage you are at with your wealth creation, you may or may not feel this applies to you but if it does and you are looking to create a wealthier lifestyle for yourself and your family, what can you do? What are these passive income streams that I have alluded to so far?

Passive income…

Well there are a lot of different methods to generate passive income and we’ll go into a few of those here but just to be clear on what we mean by passive income, another quick question:

Which one would you rather be, the person who walks to the stream each day to get their water, or the person who lays the pipe just once and sits back and lets the water come to them never having to worry about that tedious tiresome fetching and carrying anymore.

That analogy is pretty much the size of it and unfortunately it is what most of us are tied into, going to work everyday doing the work over and over again to keep getting that pay cheque at the end of the month which unfortunately never quite seems to be enough to get ahead of the game. Of course the person who does the work just the once, yet gets paid over and over again for this work is the person who has generated passive income which is one of the very best wealth creation strategies, especially when these income streams are from a variety of sources and thus spreading the risk.

Here then is a quick run down on some passive income wealth creation strategies. Generally they fall into one of two categories:

1) Passive income from investing

2) Passive income from creating

Passive income from investing includes things such as: stocks, shares, bonds, mutual funds, money markets, rental property or just straight forward investing in an already successful business. Always bear in mind though that your financial decisions should not feel as though you are gambling with your money they should feel as though you are making educated decisions with your money, there is a huge difference.

Passive income from creating includes as the name suggests creating something just once that will yield you an income over and over again in the future. Examples of this are small businesses that you employ someone else to run, any automated business, creation of products such as ‘how to’ information products that can be sold over and over again, royalties on products you have created and probably the best as the start up costs are so low are automated online internet businesses.

There are plenty more than the few ideas offered above, some great books are available on just this topic (How To Make Millions With Your Ideas by Dan. S. Kennedy is my recommendation). Take your time and educate yourself in one or more of the above strategies. Sitting at home thinking that this all sounds too hard, too technical and too ambitious is not going to get you anywhere! In two years time you could be sat there with a minimal support net for you and your family, or you could be enjoying the fruits of being proactive and have created your own passive income stream.

HELP!

Yes, I know I know, it is very easy to write about these things but doing them is another thing entirely. So, here is one BIG tip I would like to offer you on starting your own passive income stream. Here it is…..ask for help. People love to help.

Imagine if someone came up to you quite genuinely and asked for help in your particular area of expertise and said that you had been recommended to them as a someone that they would be able to learn from. How would you feel? Probably flattered right? Willing to help? More than likely. What’s more if they have been recommended by a friend (or friend of a friend) then they may well feel duty bound to help you as much as possible.

So, I suggest you ask around your friend network and business contacts and make a list of people or friends of friends who are already successful in one of these fields of passive income and wealth creation mentioned above. Next, approach them quite genuinely explain who you are and how you have found out about them and ask them if they wouldn’t mind meeting for a coffee (or whatever seems suitable) and ask them quite genuinely if they wouldn’t mind pointing you in the right direction in how to get started, or read a few books on the subject first and go with a list of sensible questions to get the ball rolling. Don’t be shy about doing this, people actually admire someone with the ‘balls’ to do this sort of thing and remember people really do love to help others and will go out of their way for you!

One quick word of warning though, beware of the person that approaches you and says that they are the guru in a particular area/field. Guru is a term that is used about other people not a term people use about themselves. If an opportunity seems to good to be true it probably is, use your judgement and common sense, ask for help and persist. Success is just the other side of a few problems, problems are good – they point the way to success.

As a final re-cap on our wealth creation strategy:

First, find out how much is going in and out your accounts each month.

Secondly, create a buffer of savings and work hard for your next lucky break.

When that promotion comes or when you have saved a reasonable amount DO NOT waste it on upgrading your lifestyle just yet, instead invest as much as you can on an ongoing basis into developing passive income streams. When you have developed these passive income streams reinvest this money in creating more of the same (or other passive income muses). Once your passive income stream reaches a level that you could potentially live happily off on its own, then this is the time that you can start to buy the cars, the bigger houses and so on – with money you already have.

That is a wealth creation strategy that can be implemented by anyone, including you, no matter where you are at today, the decision is yours! What will you do?

“Don’t say what can I do with my money, say what can money do for me!”

Feb
21

How To Get Motivated: 4 NLP Strategies That Will Really Work For You!

I’ve had this blog for years now and post on and off. I recently came across this article below, which I really enjoyed and it got me thinking, hey why don’t you share some other peoples great writings, seeing as though I haven’t quite got the time to write so much myself anymore. That way I can keep providing fresh quality content to the visitors that I get everyday. So here we go I hope you enjoy the read. NLP is a technique I’ve used often in the past and I’ve been keen to learn more. Drop any comment below and enjoy…

Author: Anna Aparicio

/mo·ti·va·tion/

1. The reason or reasons one has for acting or behaving in a particular way

2. The general desire or willingness of someone to do something

3. *My own definition: the art of getting off your butt and getting stuff done

Because here is the thing: you may have a burning desire to do something, you may have the best will in the world, you may even know all the reasons why you should do it… but if you haven’t done it yet, don’t be surprised.

Getting motivated doesn’t happen by coincidence or by miracle. Motivation is not something that some people have and others don’t either. It is something we all do, consciously or unconsciously, everyday!

Motivation is not something you have or don’t have; it is something you do

Take training, for example, notice I say training, and not exercising! We want to do it, we know it is good for us, we know it is going to make us look better and feel better… but after a hard day’s work, when tiredness sets in, who would blame us for wanting to slouch on the couch and watch some TV while eating our favourite treat?

Well, think of taking a shower for a moment. Most of us do it every day. We don’t wait until we are all stinky to clean ourselves. We do it because it is the right thing to do; it is time to take a shower.

We are able to do this because we have built up this good habit over the years through repetition. We do it at the same time, in the same place, following the same routine, which is so ingrained in our unconscious that we are barely aware of the process.

If you want to get to the point where your training routine goes as smoothly as your shower routine, start following the following NLP rules:

1# IDENTIFY EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT TO DO

Answer these questions:

What do you want specifically? When do you want it by? Where? With whom? What for? What will happen if you achieve that? What if you don’t achieve that? Is it under your control? Is it worth it?

You see, when setting up goals, a lot of people do it wrong. They state what they want to have, not what they want to do; things like “I want to be slim”, “I want a six pack” or “I want to have toned arms”… But, what do you want to do? Because it is as a result of you doing what you need to do that you will get to have what you want.

Your objective needs to be stated in a way that your brain understands it. And just like your computer, your brain needs 3 things: affirmative statements that are direct and very specific.

If you are just thinking it then it is not an objective, it is just a thought. So, put pen to paper and write your answers to the questions above.

If you don’t know what you want, how will you know when you’ve got there?


2# MAKE A PLAN

Again, if you don’t have a plan, all you have is a lovely thought. I suggest you get yourself a diary, an excel sheet, a calendar, whatever works for you, and devise your personal strategy. A strategy to suit your lifestyle, your working schedule, etc…

Keeping the end result in mind, what is the first step you need to take in order for you to do what you need to do? And after that? What’s next? Do you have all the resources you need (resources are materials, books, money, people…), or do you need help?

If it’s going to take you 12 weeks to get a six pack, set a date and work backwards from there. If you want to lose a stone in 3 weeks, do the same. Break your objective into smaller, more achievable chunks, so that this week you know exactly what you are doing with regards to training and nutrition, and you can focus on just that. As I tell my clients, it’s one week at a time, one day at a time.

You see, now you have more than just a nice thought; now you have a plan of action. And believe it or not, this is what most people lack. It’s hard to get motivated if you don’t know what you want to get motivated for!

And what are you going to do when you are tired, sad, in a mad mood, frustrated…? You must put strategies in place, so when that happens, and it will, you know exactly what to do. You have to become a bit of a ninja!

3# FIND OUT WHAT FIRES YOU UP

There are a lot of things that we need to or should do, but that doesn’t mean we do them. So I want you to try on the following sentences, simply add what you want to be able to do at the end.

For example, if you want to go to the gym every day at 6pm for an hour, try these on. Say them out loud:

I should go to the gym – I need to go to the gym – I have to go to the gym – I’d better go to the gym -

I could go to the gym – I can go to the gym – I will go to the gym – I’m going to the gym

Do this a few times and notice which one creates the strongest feeling within you, like you want to go do it. You’ve just unlocked your personal motivational language. Make sure you use it from now on!

4# IMAGINE YOURSELF SUCCEEDING

One of the main functions of the brain is to prove itself right. So, whatever you focus on is magnified, as the brain thinks it is an objective of yours. Also, the brain doesn’t know the difference between a vividly imagined memory and reality. This is why if you want to do something, it’s vital you imagine yourself doing it like this (read this NLP resource fully before you do it):

Think of yourself doing the thing you want to do, training in the gym, or whatever. When you think about it you may notice the thought to be at a certain distance from you, a certain size, and in a certain place. Just make sure you see yourself in it, looking happy, positive and really enjoying what you are doing.

 Now, imagine the thought getting bigger and bigger until it’s almost panoramic. Make sure it’s big, bold and colourful, maybe add some sound to it, and notice how good you feel.

 Now, imagine you can float outside of your body and into yourself in the image, so you can see through your eyes, hear through your ears and feel how good it feels to be doing what you are doing and loving it too! Intensify everything even more, so the colours are brighter, the sounds louder and the feelings stronger.

 Now, tell yourself in your most motivating voice “Go For It!”

 Now, take a deep breath through the nose and magnify the feelings so you feel even more motivated!

 Repeat 3 times, first sitting down, and then standing up, and notice how you feel even more motivated!

It’s vital that you build a propulsion system that makes you feel good and look forward to doing the things you want to do, so that you want to do them more and more. This is how you get to build up new more useful habits to last you a lifetime.

I’ve just shared 4 motivational strategies with you,  that when you use them, they will help you get more stuff done and achieve more, faster. They can be applied in any area of your life. These strategies have helped transform some of my clients from couch potatoes into fitness freaks, so good luck to you!

About the Author

Anna Aparicio is regarded as Ireland’s top female NLP/Hypnosis Life Coach. A Self-esteem and Confidence Expert, she has helped hundreds of women all around the world feel empowered, super confident, and lead happier more succesful lives. With a unique blend of Neuro-linguistic Programming, cutting edge personal development tools, and a contagious sense of humour and zest for life, Anna is renowned for getting results fast. Now you can get her free report WHY YOU’LL NEVER GET WHAT YOU WANT UNLESS YOU DO THIS at http://www.delite.ie

 

 

Mar
27

Proven: How To Utilize Your Hidden ‘Higher Self’ For Shockingly Fast Results!

The ancient Egyptians were apparently masters at this, women are said to do it more than men and leading sports people seemingly have access to this pool of power on tap. So when, where and how can this higher -self be accessed? And why the chuff am I talking in riddles today.

Well, I’m talking about using your own intuition of course. Some people swear by it, some people ignore it and some people will give you a sly look and mutter something like: “What planet are you from?”.

I remember reading somewhere that of a story whereby the leading bank manager who had the highest success rate in handing out small business loans that were successfully paid back in full and thus made the bank money was  a gentleman who rather than look through the business plans, balance sheets and cash flow forecasts of the businesses concerned simply decided by holding the application documents in their hands and deciding on gut instinct whether they should lend them money or not. This technique apparently out-performed all other specialist techniques business analysts used. Spooky hey. Could it be that they are accessing a higher self to make the decisions?

Sports people are often said to be ‘in the zone’ when they are on a hot streak and out-performing everyone else. They play the perfect games, they can’t seem to miss and everything goes right for them. What is helping them make the correct decisions in the ebb and flow of a game with potentially massive pressure on their shoulders?

My own theory is that it is rather like the whole being greater than the some of its parts. We are three part beings, or so we often hear: id, ego, super-ego… mind, body, spirit… father, son, holy ghost. Each of these parts could be said to represent ourselves on some different level. When each of these parts is pulling in the same direction, this is when the magic starts to happen! When we are true to ourselves, when we pursue those interest and motivations that come from deep within ourselves, we intrinsically know that it is the right thing to do. We spend less time wondering about or complaining about things and instead simply focus on the job in hand, our mind is in the right place. We feel more connected with the world, we can feel the bigger picture more (our spirit) and see where we fit in with it, our actions and then free and uninhibited by worry as we know we are on the right path.

This three fold path, which may sound a little fanciful at first reading is however a very powerful way of living I believe. If the three parts of yourself are trying to do different things it can lead to confusion, a growing feeling of sadness and of an unfulfilled existence. Now, I’m certainly no expert but my feeling is that the most successful people in life have their mind-body-spirit all aligned which gives them a massive edge over other people and gives them an inner peace which allows them to pursue their goals with a much greater zest and self-belief.

Utter non-sense, complete drivel or sage words? You decide, when you have been successful in life have your words, thoughts and deeds all matched up? Are your mind, body and spirit all pulling in the same direction and stacking the odds in your favour right now? If not why not?

Oct
11

From Despair To Vibrant Positivity In 22 Easy Steps

This is of my favourite positive thinking techniques that really does help you to achieve a feeling of vibrant positivity even when you are currently feeling very down and in a bad place.

We all know that we should be positive, and that thoughts become things and that what we think about we bring about. Well, that’s all very well, and it’s a great way to live your life, however, sometimes in life things don’t go to plan, events take a downward turn. A job falls through, ill health takes a hold, you lose a loved one, finances take a hit and so on. There are so many things that can drag you down, and of course despite our good intentions they sometimes do.

It is at these times when we are in a bad place that we are supposed to be positive and purposeful. Think positive thoughts, be optimistic, see the good in everyone and live to fight another day. For a lot of people these are the times when they are at their weakest, when they succumb to negative thoughts and poor behaviour patterns, I’m sure we have all felt sorry for ourself at one time or another, comfort ate to make ourselves feel better, wallowed in our own self pity and allowed ourselves to slide down the positivity scale.

I know I am guilty of all of the above and I would like to share with you a short exercise that will take you from a bad mental place to a positive state. I cannot claim to have ’invented’ this method, far from it. What follows is a summary of a technique I read about in ‘Ask And It Is Given’ by Jerry and Esther Hicks. The process is basically as follows and always produces good results for me:

First, you must identify from the list below what your current emotion is. Once you have done this you create a sentence about your situation using the following sentence stem: I feel (insert emotion identified) because…..

After that, you then move to the next emotion above that one and repeat the same sentence. The pattern is continued until you have worked your way up to as high as you want to go on the list, here is the list:

1. Joy/Knowledge/Empowerment/Freedom/Love/Appreciation

2. Passion

3. Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness

4. Positive Expectation/Belief

5. Optimism

6. Hopefulness

7. Contentment

8. Boredom

9. Pessimism

10. Frustration/Irritation/Impatience

11. Overwhelment

12. Disappointment

13. Doubt

14. Worry

15. Blame

16. Discouragement

17. Anger

18. Revenge

19. Hatred/Rage

20. Jealousy

21. Insecurity

22. Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness

Her is an example of this process as written by someone suffering from a serious disease/medical condition:

I feel angry because I have been unforunate enough to become very sick with a chronic disease. I feel discouraged because it is a hard disease to cure and the treatments are difficult to endure, I blame myself for this situation because I should have done something differently to stop this happening, I feel worried because this condition can be life threatening, I doubt that the treatment will be easy, I feel disappointed that my life has been so badly affected by this condition, I feel overwhelmed because there is so much new information I need to find out about this…

…I feel frustrated that I cannot get cured faster or more easily, I feel pessimistics because people do die from this condition, I feel bored after having read so much about this, I feel content that the medical doctors are doing everything they can, I feel hopeful as the treatment may work for me and there may be better treatments coming soon, I feel optimistic because my condition is not far advanced at the moment and the treatment may work for me, I feel positive because of my relative youth and the prospect of new medicines, I feel enthusiastic at starting treatment that could cure my condtion for ever, I feel passionate about getting my life back to normal and I deeply appreciate the wonderful medical science that can cure me!

As you can see the sentences fit together logically and gradually moved up the scale of emotions to finally end on a real positive note. For me I believe the reason this positive thinking technique works so well, is because you are not trying to jump from a feeling of depression straight to a feeling of happiness directly. You are building up to it in a slow methodical, logical and meaningful way. This therefore provides a bedrock or a genuine basis or reason to be able to feel the more positive feelings without them feeling like hollow thoughts. You have basically managed to pull yourself up from a low place to a high place in a gradual manner without ‘cheating’ the system. And because you aren’t making any big jumps in feelings it makes for a much more sustainable and credible new feeling. The process of writing these sentences out also adds greatly to the effectiveness of this technique as it makes you identify exactly why you are feeling in such a manner.

The only drawback I find with using this positive thinking technique is that of not remembering to use it often enough, and also having the list of emotions/words to hand, to refer to whenever you want.

I’d love to hear any of your experiences in using this system to produce vibrant positivity or maybe you have some methods of your own (here’s a few more) that you wouldn’t mind sharing below, thanks.

And here’s a cool little clip about how to be happy – made by kids – very cool indeed, enjoy…

 

 

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