Mar
27

Trusting Your Higher Self

The ancient Egyptians were apparently masters at this, women are said to do it more than men and leading sports people seemingly have access to this pool of power on tap. So when, where and how can this higher -self be accessed? And why the chuff am I talking in riddles today.

Well, I’m talking about using your own intuition of course. Some people swear by it, some people ignore it and some people will give you a sly look and mutter something like: “What planet are you from?”.

I remember reading somewhere that of a story whereby the leading bank manager who had the highest success rate in handing out small business loans that were successfully paid back in full and thus made the bank money was  a gentleman who rather than look through the business plans, balance sheets and cash flow forecasts of the businesses concerned simply decided by holding the application documents in their hands and deciding on gut instinct whether they should lend them money or not. This technique apparently out-performed all other specialist techniques business analysts used. Spooky hey. Could it be that they are accessing a higher self to make the decisions?

Sports people are often said to be ‘in the zone’ when they are on a hot streak and out-performing everyone else. They play the perfect games, they can’t seem to miss and everything goes right for them. What is helping them make the correct decisions in the ebb and flow of a game with potentially massive pressure on their shoulders?

My own theory is that it is rather like the whole being greater than the some of its parts. We are three part beings, or so we often hear: id, ego, super-ego… mind, body, spirit… father, son, holy ghost. Each of these parts could be said to represent ourselves on some different level. When each of these parts is pulling in the same direction, this is when the magic starts to happen! When we are true to ourselves, when we pursue those interest and motivations that come from deep within ourselves, we intrinsically know that it is the right thing to do. We spend less time wondering about or complaining about things and instead simply focus on the job in hand, our mind is in the right place. We feel more connected with the world, we can feel the bigger picture more (our spirit) and see where we fit in with it, our actions and then free and uninhibited by worry as we know we are on the right path.

This three fold path, which may sound a little fanciful at first reading is however a very powerful way of living I believe. If the three parts of yourself are trying to do different things it can lead to confusion, a growing feeling of sadness and of an unfulfilled existence. Now, I’m certainly no expert but my feeling is that the most successful people in life have their mind-body-spirit all aligned which gives them a massive edge over other people and gives them an inner peace which allows them to pursue their goals with a much greater zest and self-belief.

Utter non-sense, complete drivel or sage words? You decide, when you have been successful in life have your words, thoughts and deeds all matched up? Are your mind, body and spirit all pulling in the same direction and stacking the odds in your favour right now? If not why not?

Mar
21

Rekindling Desire: Take One Moral, a Dash of Alcohol and Mix With a 30 Day Challenge!

Well, here goes. It has been absolutely ages since I have posted on here. Work, social life, the odd health issue, laziness and a general lack of direction have been preventing me from adding regularly to the site. We all only have a limited amount of hours in the day and what we choose to do in our free time really matters. So why on earth would anyone spend it writing to themselves on a blog?

Fortunately this site has been around a while and still gets a steadyish number (albeit a small amount) of daily visitors, just about enough to encourage me back out of my shell. In all honesty starting a blog is really like setting yourself homework every night of the week. I was bad enough at that at school so why would I do that voluntarily now? Indeed why am I even posting this?

Well, I do kind of like writing but I think I lost track a little bit about what and how I like writing. I like writing and talking spontaneously about whatever comes naturally to mind. Looking back at some of the posts and articles they seemed rather forced and ‘not really me’. That’s the problem when you take notice of other people (so called gurus) and what they think you should be writing about. That lead to my enjoyment of blogging here dwindling and so my postings tailed off considerably.

So, why am I back here now? Well, I just received an e-mail from someone about one of my sites and it reminded me of how involved I used to be with all of this. I remember that I did used to enjoy blogging as it helped me examine, reflect on, and think about different areas of life and I did used to enjoy writing spontaneous articles, the sort of stuff that just flows out my mind rather than that which is drafted, redrafted, over and over until finally it feels so academic that all personality and feeling has gone from it. So, my new idea is that I will try and post on here everyday for a month, spontaneously, randomly and hopefully about something that has some meaning or relevance to myself, that others may also get something out of too. So let’s see how far I get with it.

And just for the record this post took about 10 mins to write and I have enjoyed writing it :) And of course the moral of the story is… (because every article needs a moral of course) that you should never lose sight of exactly who and what you are, be true to yourself and not only will you feel better about things but the good times will surely follow.

P.S. Todays picture is alcohol related because I think alcohol receives such bad press and no-one seems to celebrate the fact that, hey, having a few drinks to relax with your friends is actually quite a nice thing to do and often brings occasions alive, you know what I mean, yeah sure you do :)

 

Oct
11

From Despair To Vibrant Positivity In 22 Easy Steps

This is of my favourite positive thinking techniques that really does help you to achieve a feeling of vibrant positivity even when you are currently feeling very down and in a bad place.

We all know that we should be positive, and that thoughts become things and that what we think about we bring about. Well, that’s all very well, and it’s a great way to live your life, however, sometimes in life things don’t go to plan, events take a downward turn. A job falls through, ill health takes a hold, you lose a loved one, finances take a hit and so on. There are so many things that can drag you down, and of course despite our good intentions they sometimes do.

It is at these times when we are in a bad place that we are supposed to be positive and purposeful. Think positive thoughts, be optimistic, see the good in everyone and live to fight another day. For a lot of people these are the times when they are at their weakest, when they succumb to negative thoughts and poor behaviour patterns, I’m sure we have all felt sorry for ourself at one time or another, comfort ate to make ourselves feel better, wallowed in our own self pity and allowed ourselves to slide down the positivity scale.

I know I am guilty of all of the above and I would like to share with you a short exercise that will take you from a bad mental place to a positive state. I cannot claim to have ’invented’ this method, far from it. What follows is a summary of a technique I read about in ‘Ask And It Is Given’ by Jerry and Esther Hicks. The process is basically as follows and always produces good results for me:

First, you must identify from the list below what your current emotion is. Once you have done this you create a sentence about your situation using the following sentence stem: I feel (insert emotion identified) because…..

After that, you then move to the next emotion above that one and repeat the same sentence. The pattern is continued until you have worked your way up to as high as you want to go on the list, here is the list:

1. Joy/Knowledge/Empowerment/Freedom/Love/Appreciation

2. Passion

3. Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness

4. Positive Expectation/Belief

5. Optimism

6. Hopefulness

7. Contentment

8. Boredom

9. Pessimism

10. Frustration/Irritation/Impatience

11. Overwhelment

12. Disappointment

13. Doubt

14. Worry

15. Blame

16. Discouragement

17. Anger

18. Revenge

19. Hatred/Rage

20. Jealousy

21. Insecurity

22. Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness

Her is an example of this process as written by someone suffering from a serious disease/medical condition:

I feel angry because I have been unforunate enough to become very sick with a chronic disease. I feel discouraged because it is a hard disease to cure and the treatments are difficult to endure, I blame myself for this situation because I should have done something differently to stop this happening, I feel worried because this condition can be life threatening, I doubt that the treatment will be easy, I feel disappointed that my life has been so badly affected by this condition, I feel overwhelmed because there is so much new information I need to find out about this…

…I feel frustrated that I cannot get cured faster or more easily, I feel pessimistics because people do die from this condition, I feel bored after having read so much about this, I feel content that the medical doctors are doing everything they can, I feel hopeful as the treatment may work for me and there may be better treatments coming soon, I feel optimistic because my condition is not far advanced at the moment and the treatment may work for me, I feel positive because of my relative youth and the prospect of new medicines, I feel enthusiastic at starting treatment that could cure my condtion for ever, I feel passionate about getting my life back to normal and I deeply appreciate the wonderful medical science that can cure me!

As you can see the sentences fit together logically and gradually moved up the scale of emotions to finally end on a real positive note. For me I believe the reason this positive thinking technique works so well, is because you are not trying to jump from a feeling of depression straight to a feeling of happiness directly. You are building up to it in a slow methodical, logical and meaningful way. This therefore provides a bedrock or a genuine basis or reason to be able to feel the more positive feelings without them feeling like hollow thoughts. You have basically managed to pull yourself up from a low place to a high place in a gradual manner without ‘cheating’ the system. And because you aren’t making any big jumps in feelings it makes for a much more sustainable and credible new feeling. The process of writing these sentences out also adds greatly to the effectiveness of this technique as it makes you identify exactly why you are feeling in such a manner.

The only drawback I find with using this positive thinking technique is that of not remembering to use it often enough, and also having the list of emotions/words to hand, to refer to whenever you want.

I’d love to hear any of your experiences in using this system to produce vibrant positivity or maybe you have some methods of your own (here’s a few more) that you wouldn’t mind sharing below, thanks.

And here’s a cool little clip about how to be happy – made by kids – very cool indeed, enjoy…

 

 

Oct
08

Duncan Bannatyne: Rags To Riches!

Born into post war poverty in 1949 in Dalmuir, just west of Glasgow in Scotland, Duncan’s childhood was blighted by a lack of money. He describes his own family as being ‘simply poor’ and vividly recalls his family being too poor to even afford to buy him an ice-cream when the local ice cream van was on its rounds.

In fact more often than not, as a child he went without and upon asking his parents why they couldn’t buy new toys like the neighbours the phrase that became emblazoned on his memory was ‘because we were poor’. In fact to illustrate the point further, upon starting his middle school days he was one of only two children he turned up on the first day without a school uniform as it had been too expensive for his family to afford!

From this humble background on a council estate, however, emerged a self-made multi-millionaire serial entrepreneur and businessman who was to go on to earn an OBE, raise incredible amounts of money for charity and become a household name as a television business expert/investor (Sunday Times Rich list 2010 profiles Duncan). It wasn’t an easy route to the top and indeed he showed no real signs of the great things to come until he had turned thirty.

After leaving school with no qualifications he followed his father into the armed service but whilst his father had been in the army he joined up with Royal Navy in 1964 to fuel his craving for excitement and adventure. Unfortunately after a few short years, Duncan’s inability to adhere well to taking orders and the disciplined life, led him to be dishonourably discharged after one final instance when he tried to throw his lieutenant overboard.

Duncan served 9 months in a military detention centre following his court marshalling and then returned to Scotland and Clydebank. What followed was a string of different jobs working mainly as a repairer of sorts, repairing everything from tractors to forklift trucks. At this time there was the tragic death of his sister who died from a suspected brain tumour just days after flying to Canada where she was due to start a new life. This event affected him (and all of his family) a great deal and the following years proved to be very difficult with Duncan picking up convictions for being drunk and disorderly and resisting arrest.

“The tragic death of my sister had taught me that life was precious and can be short.”

A further string of repair, fitting and welding jobs led him south, although it was at his point that he came to some sort of realisation.

“I quit and decided I had to make some changes. I knew it was all down to me: I would be the catalyst; I was the only one who could make it happen. My instincts told me that I would know the right opportunity when I came across it.”

Following his desire to change his life he followed his instincts and ended up on the isle of Jersey and soon found himself enjoying the relaxed holiday lifestyle and made his money working in the local bars and working a taxi. Finally he happened upon the idea of selling ice-cream and bought himself an ice cream van. Initially working from just the one van he learnt the ebbs and flows of business by instinct and trial and error and this he believes was what laid the foundations of his future business success.

“I got to know myself, my strengths and my capabilities. I also got to like and believe in myself., and the idle notion that one day I might someday start a business began fermenting into quite a powerful brew. What was once a dream was becoming an intention.”

After building the ice cream business, through spotting and taking easy opportunities (like purchasing vans at the end of the season and securing licenses for areas with large amounts of foot traffic next to parks) he managed to generate annual turnovers in excess of £300,000 a year.

However, the long hours and his new family life weren’t the greatest mix and so he sold his Ice-cream van business for £28,000 and started looking for his next opportunity. At around that time favourable laws were introduced for those people wishing to build care homes for the elderly. The Thatcher government would pay £140s per week for every elderly person being looked after. This opportunity which was announced to the public through the papers is just what Duncan was looking for and so he set about building his first care home satisfied that the government would be reliable payers!

His first plot of land was a real find though and his instinct told him it was the right spot:

“On my way to the coffee shop I passed an estate agent, and in the window was a plot of land for sale. If it had been a movie, that card in the window would have started glowing, the music would have started up and my eyes would have bulged”.

Financing the building was a challenge in itself though, he had to sell his car, remortgage his house and max out his credit cards in order to get the care home built, clearly he saw this as a worthy investment despite the risk involved. Duncan clearly had great vision and tons of self-belief.

“There wasn’t a day I wasn’t happy to get out of bed and get to work.”

This first care home was finally opened and indeed it was one of the first care homes in the UK to be one person per room. This is however where Duncan’s hunger, desire and serial entrepreneurial instinct kicked in. Immediately upon opening this care home he set about using this one as leverage to build a second and then a third and fourth. His reasoning seemed to be why wouldn’t you buy something that makes money?

“Some people would have been happy with just one nursing home, but all I could say was onwards and upwards.”

Listen to Duncan telling his own story below:

One of the most enlightening parts of working with the elderly was the insights he gained into life. One common comment from many guests was:

“Make the most of every minute, you’re a young man and you have no idea how quickly time passes.”

So, after 5 years in the care home game, he had grown his business to 9 care homes and 428 registered beds and he began to consider the prospect of floating his business on the stock exchange despite knowing nothing about the process involved which would enable him to release some of the companies equity . Through persistence and tenacity, he finally managed to float the business on the Londond stockmexchange in May 1992 and thus netted himself a £500,000 cash payout and the companies total share value was at around the 20 million pound mark with Duncan owning at least 70% of those.

After his success with ice cream vans and care homes he then set his sights on other such service related opportunities including hotels and health clubs (Bannatyne Health Clubs). It was whilst he was on holiday working-out that the idea of starting health clubs got into his system and in true Bannatyne fashion things happened pretty quickly. These days the Bannatyne Health club chain has over 60 branches all over the UK with over 180,000 members and is the largest independently owned health club operator in the UK.

In recent years his remarkable story has seen him feature as a Dragon in the UK hit television series: Dragons Den (sample episode). His forthright manner, cheeky humour and sound advice have led him to become a popular television personality and he has invested in many a fellow entrepreneurs ideas through the show.

Not so well known is the amount of charity work (Duncan’s personal website) he has done and the amount of money he has raised for charity. Romania is where a lot of his efforts and money have been channelled into. Of course, this is the great reward of being wealthy, you can go onto contribute to society and live the life you really want to lead and this is what Duncan appears to be doing up until this very day.

The title of his autobiography ‘Anyone Can Do It’ where all the above quotes come from is truly an inspirational read, tracing his early years of lack and poverty right through to his meteoric rise to the top. Can anyone do it? What do you think?

 

Sep
29

The Formula For Visualisation And The Law of Attraction

I know, I know, the law of attraction has been done to death in recent years. Everything that needs to be said has already been said you might be thinking. Well, that’s what I thought until I stumbled across this cool little video. It is a short 20 minute video of one man’s story of just how powerful the law of attraction can be. The gentleman concerned is famed for his ability to manifest incredible things, things like houses! Yeah, really!

The guys name is John Assaraf and yes, he was one of the people featured in the movie ‘The Secret’. Now, don’t go thinking you don’t need to listen to this guy again just because you have seen ‘The Secret Movie’. The reason being is that in the sencond half of the video he describes in much more detail what his personal procedure is for manifesting is and also what he believes the reasons for why his process works.

For some people, the how or why something works is not important. For other people like me, they want to know why and how things work, or at least have a workable theory. I like to have a workable theory because it gives me much more belief in what I am doing, and of course the more belief you have in something the more likely you will be to stick at pursuing it… and the longer you pursue something, the better you become, the better results you get and the more you want to pursue that thing! So you end up in a very positive place just from having that bit extra belief in something, in this case a procedure for using the law of attraction.

At minute 8.29, the formula is revealed but the explanation/his theory before and after is what I found more interesting:

Some of the quotes that stood out for me in there were:

“There are no accidents’, there are no coincidences”

“It’s the repetitiveness of visualisation with the associated emotion that makes it work”

“Visualisation plus emotion times by repetition is the forumla”

“Everything works in perfect order and harmony in an intelligent universe which responds not to our thinking, not to our word, but responds to our emotion.”

“If I was feeling and acting as if this home was already mine, the lifestyle that I live (want to have) is already mine, the universe is going to match and mirror that emotion.”

“All we are seeing in this physical world of ours is a reflection of what is happening in the brain.”

“We want to make sure that when we visulilse, that we are doing the repetition with emotion and that is what creates the neural networks in the brain, once the neural networks are created that’s your movie, and then your movie has to then be played out in the physical world.”

“It’s not the eyes that see, the eyes just let light in, it’s the brain that deciphers what that information is, so if you closed your eyes and created a sequence for the car that you are driving, the home that you want to live in, the body that you want to have, the money you want to give to charities, you can create that image in your mind, that movie in your mind and the clearer it is in your mind, you can take the behaviours without having even have to see them.”

“There’s another network of cells which is the reticular activating system which is at the back of the brain…that is getting information from the universe at the rate of 400 billion bits of information per second and it deletes or distorts anything that doesn’t match up with what you are focussing on that’s high up on your importance list.”

The last quote there about the retiuclar activating system is the most interesting for me as it is really referring to something known as selective attention (More info from Wiki here). In affect you end up looking for information by instinct that is going to help you work towards your visualisations and filtering out information that is not helpful in creating the visualisations we are practising.

Well, after watching that video and writing about it, I feel I have refreshed my knowledge on visualisation and the law of attraction. In fact I’m going to give myself a challenge of creating a new visualisation and to practice it with emotion everyday for the next 30 days. I’ll do a follow up post on the results a little further down the line.

I hope you enjoyed the video and my ramblings, if you have any thoughts on this topic or advice for others then by all means leave a comment…

Cheers,

James

PS, BTW – at the end of the interview they mentioned a new ‘Mind Movies System’ which has proven very popular for performing highly effective visualisations, take a look here for more info.

 

Sep
26

The Law of Non-Resistance

The law of non-resistance can be summarised simply by the phrase what you resist persists.  This means that, by resisting a situation, you are giving it negative energy, which in turn causes it to grow.

Logic dictates that if the situation grows, it in turn (in our perception) becomes harder to resist; and the problem becomes more difficult to unravel. For example, if you are single and feeling lonely, do not focus on feelings of loneliness and your inability to attract a date. This will more than likely decrease your self-confidence and make success a lot less likely.

When a situation like this grows through the negative energy of resistance, it can spiral and get worse, feelings of lack of confidence may make you want to hide away from social situations rather than embracing them as you should. You may even spend time and energy worrying about how to stay out of the spotlight or worrying about being single forever or worrying why you are single.

All of these things are a by product of resistance. This is when you expend your own energy by resisting; leaving you with less energy to devote towards solving the  problem i.e. figuring out where would be a good place for you to meet like minded people.

Looking at it from this objective standpoint, it is easy to see that resistance is not productive in the long term; but not everyone can easily tell when they are resisting something.  A strong sign that you are resisting, and that you should rethink your course of action, is when a situation is causing you to struggle and you feel like you are making very limited progress.

The law of non-resistance can and should be made to work in your favour.  In order to do this you must first recognise and acknowledge the situation or problems you are facing.  You need to tell yourself ‘I know that I have problem x in my life’ and accept it, rather than overthinking or struggling against the problem.

Once you have reached the point of acknowledging the problem, you will be able to take positive action, giving positive energy to your solution, rather than negative energy directed towards the problem.  When you take positive action, you receive positive energy in return, and you will find that either you are closer towards a solution or the problem has been solved.  Problems always seem far easier to solve when you acknowledge them and take positive action, rather than struggling against them.

So, following on from the prior example, the single person should first acknowledge their limitations, be honest and say ‘hey I’m not so good at meeting new people, probably because I’m quite shy. After acknowledgin this they can then go on to do something positive about it, maybe attending a course or simply challening themself daily to meet new people in order to slowly build their confidence, but either way they should be focussing energy on working towards something rther than against something. This is how the law of non-resistance can work for you.

If you still feel no closer to solving the problem, don’t worry or panic, just step away from it for a while, occupy your mind with something else and return to it later.  You could also go to sleep telling yourself that you’ll come up with a way to solve the problem in the morning, and many times you will find that, because you are resting with a clear mind, the solution really will come to you upon waking. You might also find that, by leaving a problem and returning to it later, someone else has solved it, although of course you should not rely on this happening every time you have a problem but with this mindset it can happen!

The phrase ‘going with the flow’ is not just a meaningless saying; it is highly relevant to the law of non-resistance.  It is actually why some people  seem to be ‘lucky’ and others ‘unlucky’.  Rather than having good luck, it actually means that person is going with the flow of life and consequently people, places and events are falling into place for them.

The law of non-resistance teaches us that you must go with the flow to reach your goals; there are almost certainly going to be obstacles in that path but it’s how you deal with them that makes a difference.  Rather than struggling by trying to paddle upstream, against the flow, just correct your course; rather than expending all your energy trying to destroy an obstacle, start looking at what alternatives are available.

For example if you find you are meeting one obstacle after another, or your problems seem impossible to solve, this is a strong sign you are going against the flow; instead of struggling with these constant obstructions, paddle to the other side of the river – just by changing your direction and doing something differently, you might find there are no obstacles in your path.  By being aware of this ability to change and read the flow of life you are able to solve your problems without an uphill struggle.

If you do not heed the warnings and spend years struggling to overcome obstacles, you might still achieve what you were aiming for, but the reality is that the outcome may not make you as happy as you expected as it will have taken so much out of you, and this is the price you pay for ignoring the law of non-resistance and not going with the flow of life.

In summary, always be aware of the law of non-resistance and if you find you are struggling with a problem, immediately acknowledge the problem, admit its existence and take action from there.  This course of action will lead to positive energy rather than the negative energy of a struggle. If a problem persists or is unsolvable, consider changing your direction; go around the wall instead of trying to bash it down and go through it.  This way you will not be fighting against the flow and you will find it easier to achieve your goals. Here’s a related clip that might interest you if you want more info, enjoy:

 

 

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