Oct
11

From Despair To Vibrant Positivity In 22 Easy Steps

This is of my favourite positive thinking techniques that really does help you to achieve a feeling of vibrant positivity even when you are currently feeling very down and in a bad place.

We all know that we should be positive, and that thoughts become things and that what we think about we bring about. Well, that’s all very well, and it’s a great way to live your life, however, sometimes in life things don’t go to plan, events take a downward turn. A job falls through, ill health takes a hold, you lose a loved one, finances take a hit and so on. There are so many things that can drag you down, and of course despite our good intentions they sometimes do.

It is at these times when we are in a bad place that we are supposed to be positive and purposeful. Think positive thoughts, be optimistic, see the good in everyone and live to fight another day. For a lot of people these are the times when they are at their weakest, when they succumb to negative thoughts and poor behaviour patterns, I’m sure we have all felt sorry for ourself at one time or another, comfort ate to make ourselves feel better, wallowed in our own self pity and allowed ourselves to slide down the positivity scale.

I know I am guilty of all of the above and I would like to share with you a short exercise that will take you from a bad mental place to a positive state. I cannot claim to have ’invented’ this method, far from it. What follows is a summary of a technique I read about in ‘Ask And It Is Given’ by Jerry and Esther Hicks. The process is basically as follows and always produces good results for me:

First, you must identify from the list below what your current emotion is. Once you have done this you create a sentence about your situation using the following sentence stem: I feel (insert emotion identified) because…..

After that, you then move to the next emotion above that one and repeat the same sentence. The pattern is continued until you have worked your way up to as high as you want to go on the list, here is the list:

1. Joy/Knowledge/Empowerment/Freedom/Love/Appreciation

2. Passion

3. Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness

4. Positive Expectation/Belief

5. Optimism

6. Hopefulness

7. Contentment

8. Boredom

9. Pessimism

10. Frustration/Irritation/Impatience

11. Overwhelment

12. Disappointment

13. Doubt

14. Worry

15. Blame

16. Discouragement

17. Anger

18. Revenge

19. Hatred/Rage

20. Jealousy

21. Insecurity

22. Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness

Her is an example of this process as written by someone suffering from a serious disease/medical condition:

I feel angry because I have been unforunate enough to become very sick with a chronic disease. I feel discouraged because it is a hard disease to cure and the treatments are difficult to endure, I blame myself for this situation because I should have done something differently to stop this happening, I feel worried because this condition can be life threatening, I doubt that the treatment will be easy, I feel disappointed that my life has been so badly affected by this condition, I feel overwhelmed because there is so much new information I need to find out about this…

…I feel frustrated that I cannot get cured faster or more easily, I feel pessimistics because people do die from this condition, I feel bored after having read so much about this, I feel content that the medical doctors are doing everything they can, I feel hopeful as the treatment may work for me and there may be better treatments coming soon, I feel optimistic because my condition is not far advanced at the moment and the treatment may work for me, I feel positive because of my relative youth and the prospect of new medicines, I feel enthusiastic at starting treatment that could cure my condtion for ever, I feel passionate about getting my life back to normal and I deeply appreciate the wonderful medical science that can cure me!

As you can see the sentences fit together logically and gradually moved up the scale of emotions to finally end on a real positive note. For me I believe the reason this positive thinking technique works so well, is because you are not trying to jump from a feeling of depression straight to a feeling of happiness directly. You are building up to it in a slow methodical, logical and meaningful way. This therefore provides a bedrock or a genuine basis or reason to be able to feel the more positive feelings without them feeling like hollow thoughts. You have basically managed to pull yourself up from a low place to a high place in a gradual manner without ‘cheating’ the system. And because you aren’t making any big jumps in feelings it makes for a much more sustainable and credible new feeling. The process of writing these sentences out also adds greatly to the effectiveness of this technique as it makes you identify exactly why you are feeling in such a manner.

The only drawback I find with using this positive thinking technique is that of not remembering to use it often enough, and also having the list of emotions/words to hand, to refer to whenever you want.

I’d love to hear any of your experiences in using this system to produce vibrant positivity or maybe you have some methods of your own (here’s a few more) that you wouldn’t mind sharing below, thanks.

And here’s a cool little clip about how to be happy – made by kids – very cool indeed, enjoy…

 

 

Oct
08

Duncan Bannatyne: Rags To Riches!

Born into post war poverty in 1949 in Dalmuir, just west of Glasgow in Scotland, Duncan’s childhood was blighted by a lack of money. He describes his own family as being ‘simply poor’ and vividly recalls his family being too poor to even afford to buy him an ice-cream when the local ice cream van was on its rounds.

In fact more often than not, as a child he went without and upon asking his parents why they couldn’t buy new toys like the neighbours the phrase that became emblazoned on his memory was ‘because we were poor’. In fact to illustrate the point further, upon starting his middle school days he was one of only two children he turned up on the first day without a school uniform as it had been too expensive for his family to afford!

From this humble background on a council estate, however, emerged a self-made multi-millionaire serial entrepreneur and businessman who was to go on to earn an OBE, raise incredible amounts of money for charity and become a household name as a television business expert/investor (Sunday Times Rich list 2010 profiles Duncan). It wasn’t an easy route to the top and indeed he showed no real signs of the great things to come until he had turned thirty.

After leaving school with no qualifications he followed his father into the armed service but whilst his father had been in the army he joined up with Royal Navy in 1964 to fuel his craving for excitement and adventure. Unfortunately after a few short years, Duncan’s inability to adhere well to taking orders and the disciplined life, led him to be dishonourably discharged after one final instance when he tried to throw his lieutenant overboard.

Duncan served 9 months in a military detention centre following his court marshalling and then returned to Scotland and Clydebank. What followed was a string of different jobs working mainly as a repairer of sorts, repairing everything from tractors to forklift trucks. At this time there was the tragic death of his sister who died from a suspected brain tumour just days after flying to Canada where she was due to start a new life. This event affected him (and all of his family) a great deal and the following years proved to be very difficult with Duncan picking up convictions for being drunk and disorderly and resisting arrest.

“The tragic death of my sister had taught me that life was precious and can be short.”

A further string of repair, fitting and welding jobs led him south, although it was at his point that he came to some sort of realisation.

“I quit and decided I had to make some changes. I knew it was all down to me: I would be the catalyst; I was the only one who could make it happen. My instincts told me that I would know the right opportunity when I came across it.”

Following his desire to change his life he followed his instincts and ended up on the isle of Jersey and soon found himself enjoying the relaxed holiday lifestyle and made his money working in the local bars and working a taxi. Finally he happened upon the idea of selling ice-cream and bought himself an ice cream van. Initially working from just the one van he learnt the ebbs and flows of business by instinct and trial and error and this he believes was what laid the foundations of his future business success.

“I got to know myself, my strengths and my capabilities. I also got to like and believe in myself., and the idle notion that one day I might someday start a business began fermenting into quite a powerful brew. What was once a dream was becoming an intention.”

After building the ice cream business, through spotting and taking easy opportunities (like purchasing vans at the end of the season and securing licenses for areas with large amounts of foot traffic next to parks) he managed to generate annual turnovers in excess of £300,000 a year.

However, the long hours and his new family life weren’t the greatest mix and so he sold his Ice-cream van business for £28,000 and started looking for his next opportunity. At around that time favourable laws were introduced for those people wishing to build care homes for the elderly. The Thatcher government would pay £140s per week for every elderly person being looked after. This opportunity which was announced to the public through the papers is just what Duncan was looking for and so he set about building his first care home satisfied that the government would be reliable payers!

His first plot of land was a real find though and his instinct told him it was the right spot:

“On my way to the coffee shop I passed an estate agent, and in the window was a plot of land for sale. If it had been a movie, that card in the window would have started glowing, the music would have started up and my eyes would have bulged”.

Financing the building was a challenge in itself though, he had to sell his car, remortgage his house and max out his credit cards in order to get the care home built, clearly he saw this as a worthy investment despite the risk involved. Duncan clearly had great vision and tons of self-belief.

“There wasn’t a day I wasn’t happy to get out of bed and get to work.”

This first care home was finally opened and indeed it was one of the first care homes in the UK to be one person per room. This is however where Duncan’s hunger, desire and serial entrepreneurial instinct kicked in. Immediately upon opening this care home he set about using this one as leverage to build a second and then a third and fourth. His reasoning seemed to be why wouldn’t you buy something that makes money?

“Some people would have been happy with just one nursing home, but all I could say was onwards and upwards.”

Listen to Duncan telling his own story below:

One of the most enlightening parts of working with the elderly was the insights he gained into life. One common comment from many guests was:

“Make the most of every minute, you’re a young man and you have no idea how quickly time passes.”

So, after 5 years in the care home game, he had grown his business to 9 care homes and 428 registered beds and he began to consider the prospect of floating his business on the stock exchange despite knowing nothing about the process involved which would enable him to release some of the companies equity . Through persistence and tenacity, he finally managed to float the business on the Londond stockmexchange in May 1992 and thus netted himself a £500,000 cash payout and the companies total share value was at around the 20 million pound mark with Duncan owning at least 70% of those.

After his success with ice cream vans and care homes he then set his sights on other such service related opportunities including hotels and health clubs (Bannatyne Health Clubs). It was whilst he was on holiday working-out that the idea of starting health clubs got into his system and in true Bannatyne fashion things happened pretty quickly. These days the Bannatyne Health club chain has over 60 branches all over the UK with over 180,000 members and is the largest independently owned health club operator in the UK.

In recent years his remarkable story has seen him feature as a Dragon in the UK hit television series: Dragons Den (sample episode). His forthright manner, cheeky humour and sound advice have led him to become a popular television personality and he has invested in many a fellow entrepreneurs ideas through the show.

Not so well known is the amount of charity work (Duncan’s personal website) he has done and the amount of money he has raised for charity. Romania is where a lot of his efforts and money have been channelled into. Of course, this is the great reward of being wealthy, you can go onto contribute to society and live the life you really want to lead and this is what Duncan appears to be doing up until this very day.

The title of his autobiography ‘Anyone Can Do It’ where all the above quotes come from is truly an inspirational read, tracing his early years of lack and poverty right through to his meteoric rise to the top. Can anyone do it? What do you think?

 

Sep
29

The Formula For Visualisation And The Law of Attraction

I know, I know, the law of attraction has been done to death in recent years. Everything that needs to be said has already been said you might be thinking. Well, that’s what I thought until I stumbled across this cool little video. It is a short 20 minute video of one man’s story of just how powerful the law of attraction can be. The gentleman concerned is famed for his ability to manifest incredible things, things like houses! Yeah, really!

The guys name is John Assaraf and yes, he was one of the people featured in the movie ‘The Secret’. Now, don’t go thinking you don’t need to listen to this guy again just because you have seen ‘The Secret Movie’. The reason being is that in the sencond half of the video he describes in much more detail what his personal procedure is for manifesting is and also what he believes the reasons for why his process works.

For some people, the how or why something works is not important. For other people like me, they want to know why and how things work, or at least have a workable theory. I like to have a workable theory because it gives me much more belief in what I am doing, and of course the more belief you have in something the more likely you will be to stick at pursuing it… and the longer you pursue something, the better you become, the better results you get and the more you want to pursue that thing! So you end up in a very positive place just from having that bit extra belief in something, in this case a procedure for using the law of attraction.

At minute 8.29, the formula is revealed but the explanation/his theory before and after is what I found more interesting:

Some of the quotes that stood out for me in there were:

“There are no accidents’, there are no coincidences”

“It’s the repetitiveness of visualisation with the associated emotion that makes it work”

“Visualisation plus emotion times by repetition is the forumla”

“Everything works in perfect order and harmony in an intelligent universe which responds not to our thinking, not to our word, but responds to our emotion.”

“If I was feeling and acting as if this home was already mine, the lifestyle that I live (want to have) is already mine, the universe is going to match and mirror that emotion.”

“All we are seeing in this physical world of ours is a reflection of what is happening in the brain.”

“We want to make sure that when we visulilse, that we are doing the repetition with emotion and that is what creates the neural networks in the brain, once the neural networks are created that’s your movie, and then your movie has to then be played out in the physical world.”

“It’s not the eyes that see, the eyes just let light in, it’s the brain that deciphers what that information is, so if you closed your eyes and created a sequence for the car that you are driving, the home that you want to live in, the body that you want to have, the money you want to give to charities, you can create that image in your mind, that movie in your mind and the clearer it is in your mind, you can take the behaviours without having even have to see them.”

“There’s another network of cells which is the reticular activating system which is at the back of the brain…that is getting information from the universe at the rate of 400 billion bits of information per second and it deletes or distorts anything that doesn’t match up with what you are focussing on that’s high up on your importance list.”

The last quote there about the retiuclar activating system is the most interesting for me as it is really referring to something known as selective attention (More info from Wiki here). In affect you end up looking for information by instinct that is going to help you work towards your visualisations and filtering out information that is not helpful in creating the visualisations we are practising.

Well, after watching that video and writing about it, I feel I have refreshed my knowledge on visualisation and the law of attraction. In fact I’m going to give myself a challenge of creating a new visualisation and to practice it with emotion everyday for the next 30 days. I’ll do a follow up post on the results a little further down the line.

I hope you enjoyed the video and my ramblings, if you have any thoughts on this topic or advice for others then by all means leave a comment…

Cheers,

James

PS, BTW – at the end of the interview they mentioned a new ‘Mind Movies System’ which has proven very popular for performing highly effective visualisations, take a look here for more info.

 

Sep
26

The Law of Non-Resistance

The law of non-resistance can be summarised simply by the phrase what you resist persists.  This means that, by resisting a situation, you are giving it negative energy, which in turn causes it to grow.

Logic dictates that if the situation grows, it in turn (in our perception) becomes harder to resist; and the problem becomes more difficult to unravel. For example, if you are single and feeling lonely, do not focus on feelings of loneliness and your inability to attract a date. This will more than likely decrease your self-confidence and make success a lot less likely.

When a situation like this grows through the negative energy of resistance, it can spiral and get worse, feelings of lack of confidence may make you want to hide away from social situations rather than embracing them as you should. You may even spend time and energy worrying about how to stay out of the spotlight or worrying about being single forever or worrying why you are single.

All of these things are a by product of resistance. This is when you expend your own energy by resisting; leaving you with less energy to devote towards solving the  problem i.e. figuring out where would be a good place for you to meet like minded people.

Looking at it from this objective standpoint, it is easy to see that resistance is not productive in the long term; but not everyone can easily tell when they are resisting something.  A strong sign that you are resisting, and that you should rethink your course of action, is when a situation is causing you to struggle and you feel like you are making very limited progress.

The law of non-resistance can and should be made to work in your favour.  In order to do this you must first recognise and acknowledge the situation or problems you are facing.  You need to tell yourself ‘I know that I have problem x in my life’ and accept it, rather than overthinking or struggling against the problem.

Once you have reached the point of acknowledging the problem, you will be able to take positive action, giving positive energy to your solution, rather than negative energy directed towards the problem.  When you take positive action, you receive positive energy in return, and you will find that either you are closer towards a solution or the problem has been solved.  Problems always seem far easier to solve when you acknowledge them and take positive action, rather than struggling against them.

So, following on from the prior example, the single person should first acknowledge their limitations, be honest and say ‘hey I’m not so good at meeting new people, probably because I’m quite shy. After acknowledgin this they can then go on to do something positive about it, maybe attending a course or simply challening themself daily to meet new people in order to slowly build their confidence, but either way they should be focussing energy on working towards something rther than against something. This is how the law of non-resistance can work for you.

If you still feel no closer to solving the problem, don’t worry or panic, just step away from it for a while, occupy your mind with something else and return to it later.  You could also go to sleep telling yourself that you’ll come up with a way to solve the problem in the morning, and many times you will find that, because you are resting with a clear mind, the solution really will come to you upon waking. You might also find that, by leaving a problem and returning to it later, someone else has solved it, although of course you should not rely on this happening every time you have a problem but with this mindset it can happen!

The phrase ‘going with the flow’ is not just a meaningless saying; it is highly relevant to the law of non-resistance.  It is actually why some people  seem to be ‘lucky’ and others ‘unlucky’.  Rather than having good luck, it actually means that person is going with the flow of life and consequently people, places and events are falling into place for them.

The law of non-resistance teaches us that you must go with the flow to reach your goals; there are almost certainly going to be obstacles in that path but it’s how you deal with them that makes a difference.  Rather than struggling by trying to paddle upstream, against the flow, just correct your course; rather than expending all your energy trying to destroy an obstacle, start looking at what alternatives are available.

For example if you find you are meeting one obstacle after another, or your problems seem impossible to solve, this is a strong sign you are going against the flow; instead of struggling with these constant obstructions, paddle to the other side of the river – just by changing your direction and doing something differently, you might find there are no obstacles in your path.  By being aware of this ability to change and read the flow of life you are able to solve your problems without an uphill struggle.

If you do not heed the warnings and spend years struggling to overcome obstacles, you might still achieve what you were aiming for, but the reality is that the outcome may not make you as happy as you expected as it will have taken so much out of you, and this is the price you pay for ignoring the law of non-resistance and not going with the flow of life.

In summary, always be aware of the law of non-resistance and if you find you are struggling with a problem, immediately acknowledge the problem, admit its existence and take action from there.  This course of action will lead to positive energy rather than the negative energy of a struggle. If a problem persists or is unsolvable, consider changing your direction; go around the wall instead of trying to bash it down and go through it.  This way you will not be fighting against the flow and you will find it easier to achieve your goals. Here’s a related clip that might interest you if you want more info, enjoy:

 

 

Sep
23

Thoughts On: Passive Income, Security, Savings And You!

I’ve written about this before but was aggravated recently when I came across an article that was pretty self-righteous in nature and felt that I just had to respond to it. The article here (TimeMoneyLand.com), outlines a rule of thumb, as to how much each person should be saving in order to retire comfortably.

However, it somehow managed to over look the fact that in life, sometimes things don’t always go to plan, illnesses, job losses, redundancies, and so on do happen. These would therefore render a plan such as the one outlined redundant or at best half baked. I always get the feeling when articles like this appear that the writer has a vested interest and are that they are just trying to scare people into acting in the way they want them to. In this case to give all their spare money to a bank manager to look after.

Yes, we should all be trying to take control of our financial future but we don’t have to play into the hands of those that pretty much got us into all of this economic mess in the first place (the bankers, fat cats and so on). Of course they would love us to chuck all our spare cash into an account and let them have their fun with it, whilst giving us a measly return on it.

If you follow their financial plan to retirement, then you are on the road to a very long working life and a fairly frugal life in retirement with not much fun on the road between here and retirement age. It will also keep you ‘in the system’ and completely under the control of your boss for the rest of your days. Yes, it is the ‘safe’ option but is it really the best option for you?

Personally, I much prefer to live life and enjoy it right here, right now! AND make decent savings for the future. The truth of it is, if you want to secure your future, there is another way. It is the way that they (I mean the financial institutions) don’t really want you to know about because they would rather that you settled for their pathetic interest rates.

Instead the happy and wealthy people that I know have done the following. They have set up some reliable ‘passive income streams’. A passive income stream is money that you get paid over and over again for work you do just once. Before you groan and say that’s not possible, well, here are a couple of decent articles and sites which flesh the concept out a bit more and give some useful ideas if you are not familiar with it: Passive Income Overview and increasing your passive income.

Now, most of these will require some start-up capital (seed money) and to my mind this is what you should initially be saving for. You will also need to bear in mind a couple of things:

1) You need to take advice/help and do research on how to create these passive income streams properly. Don’t just go blindly into something without having a proper grasp on it first, but don’t be scared of taking action either!

2) It won’t happen overnight. It will take time and practice to get it right.

The best things to do would be to find someone you personally know or a friend of a friend who could give you some free advice as to the first steps you need to take. Whether you decide to try and create some passive income streams or not is up to you, but you should definitely be planning for the future, but please, for pity sake enjoy the now too! Life is a present i.e is lived in the now, not twenty of thirty years down the line.

I highly recommend you check out the book: The 4-Hour Work Week’ in order to gain some much better insights into creating passive income streams. You might also care to take a look at ‘Rich Dad Poor Dad’ by Robert Kiyosaki for some more kick ass advice that could really give you financially secure and happy future.

However, it is important not to just read those texts, but to take action on them. Passive income streams take a while to build up and they may also take two or three goes to get right, but it can be done, and sure beats the pants off working for a boss!

As an example, A drinking buddy of mine lives off of his one passive income stream which came about as a result of forming a beachside restaurant on an island off the coast of Thailand (Samet island – pictured). He is very happy with his life. He does nothing at the restaurant, only keeping any eye on things now and then and enjoying the cash it brings in. But, I mention this not to big him up, but to share with you the fact that he failed twice before in trying to set a passive income stream up. However, he didn’t give up, he learnt from his mistakes took action and is far better off now for it. A life without a daily commute, with money to spare and very little stress is so much more pleasurable.

I would urge you to think of some passive income idea close to home to begin with, by that I mean in terms of something close to your current expertise base. If you are an accountant, some type of online financial service might be the answer, could you offer a service online and get it automated? Try to think a little bit out of the box, if you are struggling for ideas take a look at this website here called SmartPassiveIncome dedicated completely to this topic which is bound to help you. Real estate letting is always a popular idea because it frequently works, and is generally (even these days) a safe option, another great post on this is here if you want more info.

Anyway, sorry for the rant it, just always hits a raw nerve when I here/see people buy into the rat race concept, and the ‘I must do this or that by a certain age’, because to me it seems to be robbing them blind of their god given right to freedom and a life now (yes, people are free to choose to buy into the whole rat race syndrome I suppose) but I feel that some people are too easily scared into doing so and regret not taking any chances or doing things differently further down the line, when there best days are of course behind them. I said this subject hits a raw nerve with me because a close family member of mine is now in the boat of ‘Why didn’t I do this or that when I was younger mentality’ and is not enjoying their latter days as much as they may otherwise have done – don’t let that be you.

I purposefully didn’t want to sound get into the different passive income methods too much here, it is the change in mindset that I wanted to emphasise. This is what I think is required in some people if they do genuinely want to retire wealthy and at a decent age. Just my two pennies worth though! I would also love to hear your thoughts on this or any ideas you have for generating some passive income below, thanks in advance!

Sep
20

My 7 Positive Thinking Keys To Success

What Positive Thinking Means To Me

Inspiring stuff… lost for words!

To me positive thinking is not just a concept that can be used occasionally or as and when things aren’t looking so rosy, it is instead an entire approach to life.

That doesn’t mean to say that I am running around all day whooping for joy that I am alive or that I have a permanent smile on my face. It does however mean that I am committed to abiding by a certain set of principles that I believe allows me to get the most self-fulfilment and joy that I can out of life.

Here are my 7 key principles that I believe are the cornerstones to a happy way of life built around positive thinking:

  • Know what you want at all times and why. Are you really doing something because you have a deep burning desire to do it or are you simply going along with the crowd? There is a huge difference between the two. If you are doing the latter then you are likely to lack any deep sense of motivation and drive which is crucial to success. If however you are true to yourself and follow your passion then your motivation will be strong and never ending which in turn will lead you to achieve your goals.

 

  • Knowing that failure is ok! In fact failure can be excellent, it may even show that you are getting closer to your goals. It is like a stepping stone on your way to success, a signpost if you like that all is well. From your failures is where your successes are born, not only does it provide you with another opportunity to try again it teaches you what not to do! We’ve all heard the famous story from Thomas Edison that he failed 10,000 times before he finally got the end result he desired i.e. the invention of the light bulb. I know that when we do not achieve our goals we may often feel like giving up and that it can feel anything but a step on the road to success, at those times I may take a break from pursuing that thing or just try and take a step back from the situation and to try and see the bigger picture. Simply enjoy the journey, learn from your past experiences and try again!

 

  • Keep a clear head. Through regular meditation I am able to prevent my thoughts from cluttering up my mind too much and I am able to maximise my creative ability which is excellent for problem solving and generating new ideas. Meditation gives a great sense of peace, reassurance and a general all round feeling of good health. An absolute must for any wannabe positive thinker. It is during meditation that I will visualise and affirm my goals.

 

  • Give willingly of your time and money to help others, particularly when it relates to a specific area that you are interested in. The Conversations With God series of books is one of my favourite and I have found much truth in its teaching that you should:

“Be the source in the life of others of that which you want in your own life.”

  • In other words whatever you want, find some way to give it away! Sounds crazy but works. This opens you up to receiving more than what you have given away. If you want to speak fluent Spanish, teach others what you know already. In some weird way through doing that you in turn will improve, maybe it will be through the very teaching of the language itself, or maybe you will meet through your students a fluent Spanish speaker who is willing to teach you for free! Yes it sounds like an odd example but the universe has its own way of working which is not always predictable, but work to perfection it will, just give it a chance!

 

  • Focussing on the positives and avoiding the fear of failure. Nothing will kill a goal stone dead faster than the fear of failure. Fear is a very powerful emotion and detracts a lot of energy from you, which could otherwise be directed on something more constructive. When you are constantly worrying about failing it nags away at you at the back of your mind, undermining your confidence, creativity and focus. To avoid fear set goals that do not risk too much. For example, if you start a business with bank loans knowing that if your business is not successful then you will become bankrupt and lose your house, isn’t that likely to make you worried and scared at the possibility. If so then it will likely come to fruition as, as the saying goes: “Where attention goes, energy flows” and losing your house is not where you want it to be! I’m not saying don’t aim high or take risks, but do so in a way that you feel comfortable with, otherwise you are shooting yourself in the foot before the race has even started.

 

  • Follow your nose. Sorry, I couldn’t find a better way of putting this! But seriously when you are seeing the opportunities in even bad situations and focussing on the positives then they inevitably open doorways for you, you need to go through these and make the most of them. It is highly likely that they will very soon lead to more opportunities surrounding what you are looking for and once more you need to be prepared to act fast and pursue this. By acting in this way you will be creating what I like to think of as a spiral of positivity whereby things are just getting better and better with situations constantly feeding off each other, improving, getting better and leading you ever further forwards.

  • Improve yourself. You are perfect….and you are not! Yes, the human body is an incredible thing made with such extraordinary precision as to defy belief, yet at the same time it is up to you to keep improving your knowledge and skills through education and personal development so that you can do yet more with your life and feel even more self-fulfilled and happy. Don’t allow yourself to stagnate constantly seek out new ways to push yourself and improve. Doing so can provide a life time of happiness!

 

So, there you have it, the pretty much some up my ‘positive thinking approach’ to life, as you can see I believe there is a bit more to it than just the old: “is the cup half full or half empty” conundrum.  Of course you may have your own ideas about how to live a positive life which are completely different to mine and that is fine. Find what works for you and stick with it. I hope you enjoyed the read and feel free to add your own in the comment box…

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