We all know that we should be positive, and that thoughts become things and that what we think about we bring about. Well, that’s all very well, and it’s a great way to live your life, however, sometimes in life things don’t go to plan, events take a downward turn. A job falls through, ill health takes a hold, you lose a loved one, finances take a hit and so on. There are so many things that can drag you down, and of course despite our good intentions they sometimes do.
It is at these times when we are in a bad place that we are supposed to be positive and purposeful. Think positive thoughts, be optimistic, see the good in everyone and live to fight another day. For a lot of people these are the times when they are at their weakest, when they succumb to negative thoughts and poor behaviour patterns, I’m sure we have all felt sorry for ourself at one time or another, comfort ate to make ourselves feel better, wallowed in our own self pity and allowed ourselves to slide down the positivity scale.
I know I am guilty of all of the above and I would like to share with you a short exercise that will take you from a bad mental place to a positive state. I cannot claim to have ’invented’ this method, far from it. What follows is a summary of a technique I read about in ‘Ask And It Is Given’ by Jerry and Esther Hicks. The process is basically as follows and always produces good results for me:
First, you must identify from the list below what your current emotion is. Once you have done this you create a sentence about your situation using the following sentence stem: I feel (insert emotion identified) because…..
After that, you then move to the next emotion above that one and repeat the same sentence. The pattern is continued until you have worked your way up to as high as you want to go on the list, here is the list:
4. Positive Expectation/Belief
Her is an example of this process as written by someone suffering from a serious disease/medical condition:
I feel angry because I have been unforunate enough to become very sick with a chronic disease. I feel discouraged because it is a hard disease to cure and the treatments are difficult to endure, I blame myself for this situation because I should have done something differently to stop this happening, I feel worried because this condition can be life threatening, I doubt that the treatment will be easy, I feel disappointed that my life has been so badly affected by this condition, I feel overwhelmed because there is so much new information I need to find out about this…
…I feel frustrated that I cannot get cured faster or more easily, I feel pessimistics because people do die from this condition, I feel bored after having read so much about this, I feel content that the medical doctors are doing everything they can, I feel hopeful as the treatment may work for me and there may be better treatments coming soon, I feel optimistic because my condition is not far advanced at the moment and the treatment may work for me, I feel positive because of my relative youth and the prospect of new medicines, I feel enthusiastic at starting treatment that could cure my condtion for ever, I feel passionate about getting my life back to normal and I deeply appreciate the wonderful medical science that can cure me!
As you can see the sentences fit together logically and gradually moved up the scale of emotions to finally end on a real positive note. For me I believe the reason this positive thinking technique works so well, is because you are not trying to jump from a feeling of depression straight to a feeling of happiness directly. You are building up to it in a slow methodical, logical and meaningful way. This therefore provides a bedrock or a genuine basis or reason to be able to feel the more positive feelings without them feeling like hollow thoughts. You have basically managed to pull yourself up from a low place to a high place in a gradual manner without ‘cheating’ the system. And because you aren’t making any big jumps in feelings it makes for a much more sustainable and credible new feeling. The process of writing these sentences out also adds greatly to the effectiveness of this technique as it makes you identify exactly why you are feeling in such a manner.
The only drawback I find with using this positive thinking technique is that of not remembering to use it often enough, and also having the list of emotions/words to hand, to refer to whenever you want.
I’d love to hear any of your experiences in using this system to produce vibrant positivity or maybe you have some methods of your own (here’s a few more) that you wouldn’t mind sharing below, thanks.
And here’s a cool little clip about how to be happy – made by kids – very cool indeed, enjoy…